Since I was a kid I've been hearing people say "Don't be afraid of the unknown." Last night I learned 2 things about the unknown. #1. It's not only the BIG unknowns that we learn from. Sometimes it's the small ones. Like meeting a girl online. Like getting into her car. Like letting her picking the restaurant. "I'm already so far out of my comfort zone why stop now?" she said. That's how I knew I was with the right person. We ordered nachos. We ordered wings. I let her pick the sauce. I was being polite. She picked a spicy honey sauce. Gross. But when the food arrived... those wings... were the best thing that I had tasted all week. The unknown. It's the little yeses that you say to yourself on Monday that will facilitate the bigger yeses that you will need to say to survive until Friday. Nod your head enough and you'll notice that it actually requires an effort to stop-- and start shaking it. #2. If you REALLY want to test your fear of the unknown here's the best trick: put all your decision making in the hands of another person for a few hours. Let someone else choose what you will wear, what music you play in the car, and what you will eat. I like to play this game with my best friends where we go out to dinner and everyone orders for someone else. It like Secret Santa with food. That's why taking pictures of complete strangers rules. It's the ultimate unknown. But you only get a few hours at the beginning before the comfortable patterns start to emerge. So learn from it quickly. You don't have to make ALL the decisions. A photoshoot is not a dictatorship. But it's not a democracy either. It's more like a monarchy. And guess what? It's your job to protect the queen. Use the energy of this new situation you're both in to find something new. Either one of you can take the lead. Just make sure she looks good doing it. (Writing: @mutualinspirationsociety ). When was the last time YOU dove into the unknown?