56 minutes ago
Solution Series Part3. *Zapaat*
These days Azhaan has become so naughty and so cranky so he is less in table talk sessions and more in Zapaat sessions,
Zapaat is not always "Chamat", sometimes I pull his ear or sometimes cheeks 🙈 please dont bash me, my son-my choice, your kids-your choice 😜
Most of the time I punish him and avoid zapaating, punishment can be like i stop talking to him and start ignoring him, just to make him realise his mistake, to which he sooner apologies. 🤗
👉Try not to scare your kid of anything like darkness or loneliness or anything, Never. (But still my son is phattu type 🙈 ) 👉 Always always always keep these sessions of not more then 10 minutes including reen raaan pee paaan 🤗 rona Dhona lecture sb kuch 10mins sy Zada prolong na kare 🤯 as kids only listen to you for 2 3 minutes then their brain machine engages in next devilry assignment 😜 so be concise in convincing 😊
👉 Always be rigid about your kids behaviour irrespective of the fact how their army rescue them, support them out of the way, if it is in good will and on good choices than why not 👏👏 otherwise raise your voice, because you will be questioned for their upbringing.
👉 kids will listen you more, if you spend more time with them, talk to them, tell stories to them, play with them, be like them. They surely will listen to you, I have notice visible change in my son's behaviour when I pay more attention to him and when I involve in fun activities with him, he feels joyous and then listen to whatever I say to him. 👉 Never spit your frustration on your kids, I used to do so when in PPD, so azhaan got more close to his Baba and started ignoring me 😔 *envious mommy* 😝 then I worked on my attitude towards him as mentioned above and game sorted 😬
👉 Most importantly, Never allow anyone* to intervene when you and your kid are in resolving session. This way they will learn mumma's saying should be marked and obeyed. *Army ko b ankh dekhani par jati h kabi kabi 😜 👉 Rule the situation, either you or husband. One at a time. And other should avoid taking side of kid in anyway. 👉 Hug Therapy works best.
Good luck to all the mommies of Tods around ❤👍